mirror gazing

How does mirror gazing at yourself boost self-esteem to live an incredible life?

Is there anyone in this world who never looks in the mirror?

You’ll have a hard time finding one.

So many of us find ourselves examining ourselves in the mirror several times a day without even realizing it.

When we’re grazing the mirror, we’re usually not doing anything significant.

When combing or applying make-up, most of us gaze in the mirror.

And what about the ladies?

No harsh feeling.

Maybe they gaze in the mirror several times.


You could come up with hundreds of reasons.

They could be looking at their pores, trying to figure out when that new wrinkle appeared or despisingly wishing away eye bags.

However, you may notice that your skin is radiant and your hairstyle is flawless—in other words, you are feeling good about yourself as you examine yourself in the mirror.

However, when you unlock your front camera to adjust your lipstick, your self-assurance crumbles.

What gives that the reflection in the mirror and the snapshot on your smartphone are so dissimilar?

That’s a very different story.

Let’s examine what the mirror has to say about us.

Of course, mirroring the mirror image reveals a lot about yourself because the reflection in the mirror is the most real and familiar image of our face.

When we brush our teeth, comb our hair, apply cosmetics, or simply get ready for the day, it’s there.

Because you are so accustomed to seeing yourself in the mirror.

We aren’t usually particularly nice to ourselves.

Mirrors can elicit intense emotions in us, but they can also be extremely effective instruments for shifting our viewpoint and revealing aspects of ourselves that are often hidden when we gaze out into the world.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with taking a short glimpse in the mirror whenever you pass one, whether you’re admiring a new hairstyle or inspecting yourself.

Appreciating yourself and taking care of your looks can lead to emotions of self-assurance, which is a totally good attribute to have.

Perhaps you are unconcerned about your appearance.

Looking at yourself for any longer than it takes to make sure your face is clean and your teeth are free of spinach may be unsettling, if not downright uncomfortable.

However, if you avoid looking in the mirror, you may be losing out on seeing something more profound in yourself.

As a result, mirror work should be practiced.

You may also call it “mirror look meditation.”

Mirror work includes looking in the mirror and repeating positive affirmations like “I love myself” and “I am powerful.”

While you can practice mirror work for a long time, you can also do it whenever you find yourself looking in the mirror, even if it’s only for a few seconds.

Louise Hay, a transformational teacher and self-love expert who wrote Heal Your Body and Mirror Work: 21 Days to Heal Your Life, pioneered the technique.

“Doing mirror work is one of the most loving gifts you can offer yourself,” Hay says in Mirror Work.

In one’s own self-love journey, mirror work has proven to be extremely transformative.

While it was first uncomfortable, Louise Hay, a self-love guru, says she was able to peel away the worries and doubts and fully see herself and the reality of her heart.

If you’re curious about the research, one 2017 study on mirror work found it to be a useful addition to self-compassion practices, with the study authors stating, “The mirror enhances the efficacy of this self-compassion manipulation in activating the soothing effect system connected with parasympathetic nervous system  activity.”

Why is it that staring in the mirror is so powerful and effective?

Mirror gazing teaches us that we require face-to-face interaction to create a sense of self, manage our emotions, and develop empathy for others, according to neuroscience and psychology study.

We learn about ourselves by looking at how others see us.

We learn how they feel by looking at their faces, and we learn how they feel by looking at our own.

We practice changing our expressions based on how they react to us at the moment.

This is the foundation for learning to manage our emotions and negotiate difficult social circumstances in order to have a fulfilling life.

No matter the style of meditation you choose, it can provide numerous benefits.

Meditation is commonly used to develop self-awareness, reduce stress, and become more in tune with one’s emotions.

Mirror staring can provide comparable outcomes.

If your eyes are a window into your soul, mirror staring gives you a direct line to the source of your suffering, making it easier to investigate emotional symptoms and pinpoint root reasons.

  1. Increasing your sense of self-awareness.

Mirror work allows you to connect more deeply to your genuine self by allowing you to see through the conditioning that causes anxieties and concerns.

When your reflection reminds you of flaws and shortcomings, looking in the mirror might make you feel uncomfortable.

However, looking in the mirror can help you adopt a more realistic and forgiving mindset.

Sure, you have shortcomings, but then again, who doesn’t?

These flaws in your personality don’t make you any less deserving of love, especially your own.

Reminding yourself that everyone makes mistakes will help you forgive yourself and stop being so harsh on yourself.

Similarly, compassionate acceptance of your unique self can help you overcome emotions of guilt or inadequacy.

Negative thoughts that emerge like weeds can be pruned back, allowing self-acceptance and self-love to blossom.

  1. Increasing your self-esteem.

It might be difficult to look in the mirror, especially if you have poor self-esteem.

However, when you practice saying positive affirmations in front of the mirror, you’ll likely start to believe them.

People who are accustomed to suppressing uncomfortable emotions may develop a habit of concealing their true feelings.

Your mirror, on the other hand, will not allow you to hide from anything.

Unpleasant feelings, concerns, and self-doubt all come to the surface, revealing the mask you wear in front of others.

  1. Getting over insecurities

The confrontation that occurs in front of the mirror as you continue to conduct mirror work can eventually help you break through negative self-talk.

Observing the emotions that are shifting across your face and manifesting in your body language can help you assess your current mental condition, even if you are putting on a happy face.

It can also be easier to communicate honestly with others if you learn to tolerate, or better yet, openly accept all emotions (even the unpleasant ones).

  1. Bringing your inner child back to life.

Mirror work is an excellent exercise to adopt if you’re interested in inner child work.

Inner child work overlaps with much of the focus on overcoming anxieties and developing your relationship with yourself, and the two techniques operate in unison.

  1. Developing self-assurance.

Last but not least, mirror work can aid in the development of confidence and self-assurance.

Rather than seeking emotional support or admiration from others, you should go within yourself.

Emotions are often expressed on the face, but study demonstrates that pain can be carried elsewhere in the body as well.

The sag of your shoulders, a restless foot, or your unwillingness to meet your own eyes is all signs of distress.

Looking in the mirror, on the other hand, makes practicing authenticity much easier.

It is in our nature to want to be seen and reflected.

We learn to comprehend ourselves as youngsters by observing the reflections of people around us.

Face-to-face interaction, according to psychologists, is critical for our social and emotional growth.

We miss out on social reflection as we spend more time alone and on our devices.

We can come face to face with ourselves at any time by looking in the mirror.

You will not become a towering narcissist by learning to tune into your image.

You’ll learn to stay present with yourself, moderate the intensity of your emotions, and tap into a new inner power,  on the contrary.

In fact, greater self-awareness is the key to overcoming the inner critic and the external environment, both of which feed our concerns and anxieties that we are never safe, never good enough, and never have enough.

We miss out on the face-to-face reflection that helps us stay emotionally connected to ourselves as we spend more time alone and on our devices. Maintaining that connection can be made easier with the use of a mirror.

The quality of our relationship with ourselves is reflected in the mirror.

In my line of work, I’ve witnessed firsthand how cruel individuals can be to themselves without even realizing it.

The mirror accurately reflects our self-criticism, and mirror meditation gives us the option and practice of treating ourselves with love.

Use the Mirror Meditation to help you relax.

Every day, it is recommended to do 10 minutes of the silent mirror staring.

Here are some basic recommendations to follow.

  1. Create the environment and set the intention.

Choose a well-lit, distraction-free location where you can place a freestanding mirror so you can see into your eyes without straining or bending forward.

Concentrate on your breathing.

Begin by closing your eyes.

2. Pay attention to your breathing.

Are you holding your breath or inhaling and exhaling quickly?

Take a couple of deep belly breaths slowly.

Then simply observe how your breath moves your belly, ribcage, and collarbones as you inhale, and then gently contract your collarbones, ribcage, and belly as you exhale.

Imagine directing your breath to calm any regions of tightness in your body, especially your face and shoulders, and letting stiffness melt away.

  1. Start looking into your own eyes.

When you first glance at yourself, notice if your breathing changes.

Return to a full, steady breathing pattern.

Keep an eye on the quality of your gaze:

Is it a harsh or a gentle tone?

Try to keep your glance as mild as possible.

If you sense yourself hardening by concentrating on a detail or a defect in your appearance, take a few deep breaths until you feel more relaxed.

  1. Pay attention to your critic.

If your initial reaction to looking in the mirror is critical, pay attention to your eyes as you scrutinize yourself in this exacting, perhaps even harsh or cold manner. See if you can shift your focus away from the person (or image in the mirror) that you are scrutinizing and toward the person who is beneath that scrutiny – that’s who you really are.

What does it feel like for that part of you to be receiving those criticisms?

  1. Pay attention to where your focus wanders and how it makes you feel.

Keep your eyes on your mirror and be receptive to whatever comes up.

Allow any feelings or emotions that arise to exist in their natural state, without judgment or interpretation.

Allow your emotions and ideas to drift away while you breathe, relax your body, and stare at yourself with no other objective than to be present with yourself.

You acquired ties to caregivers who were there in your life on a regular basis when you were a newborn.

You probably had the strongest relationships with the folks you saw on a regular basis during your adolescence and adulthood.

Similarly, spending more time with yourself assists you to gain a deeper understanding of yourself.

You’re the finest person to confirm and validate all of your characteristics.

When other people’s thoughts and critiques erode your self-worth, leaving you feeling vulnerable and alone, you might turn to your mirror for a trusted buddy.

This awareness can help you to feel entire rather than fragmented, making it easier to deal with hurtful comments and judgment.

You probably see yourself in the mirror every day, so say something nice to yourself the next time you do.

  • I am a wonderful person with a high level of confidence and self-esteem.
  • I am aware of my worth.
  • I am proud of who I am.
  • I am powerful and capable of overcoming any obstacle.
  • No task is too difficult for me.
  • I am committed to my own progress, and my life is plentiful and meaningful.



About admin

Despite successful career and upward trajectory, I found myself unfulfilled. My true passion lies in uplifting others that everyone deserves a joyful existence. Consequently, I've immersed myself in the captivating world of harnessing human psychology and the power of the mind to catalyze rapid personal growth and a more rewarding life. My life's mission encompasses a diverse spectrum of endeavors, including personal transformation, psychological counseling, NLP guidance, public speaking, storytelling expertise, mastering the Law of Attraction, one-on-one sessions, life coaching, and career counseling. My ultimate goal is to positively impact one million lives. With a robust background spanning three decades in civil engineering with MBA in personnel management, I'm transitioning my focus toward understanding human behavior.

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